Low Desire? Insights from a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia on Reigniting Desire and Connection
I’m Erinn, your Philadelphia Sex Therapist & Intimacy Coach and I’m here today to help you with low libido.
Why low desire feels so hard: Your Sex Therapist in Philadelphia
Why Low Desire Feels So Hard: Advice from a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia
If you’re struggling with low desire, I want you to know you’re not alone—and it’s not your fault. As a sex therapist in Philadelphia, I’ve worked with countless women who feel stuck in the same cycle: overwhelmed, exhausted, and disconnected.
Maybe this sounds familiar:
You’re lying in bed, staring at the ceiling. Your husband is peacefully asleep beside you, but your mind is racing. You think about all the times you’ve said, “Not tonight.” You wonder how much longer before he just… stops asking. And with that thought comes a wave of guilt, frustration, and maybe even resentment.
Because it’s not just about sex. It’s about the distance that’s grown between you, the way he’s quieter now, the way you’re both navigating this unspoken space. And deep down, you might feel like it’s all on you to fix.
But here’s the truth: It’s not all on you, and hoping it will fix itself isn’t working either. What you need is a new way in.
5 Myths About Low Desire (And the Facts That Will Change Everything)
When it comes to low desire, there’s no shortage of myths that make it even harder to navigate. Let’s bust some of the most common ones:
How Survival Mode Affects Low Desire:
Myth: Things will just ‘get better’ over time.
Fact: Desire needs attention and care. Waiting it out often makes the distance grow, not shrink.Myth: It’s all on you to fix this.
Fact: Intimacy is a team effort. While you can take the first step, it’s about building connection together.Myth: You’ll want it more if you do it more.
Fact: Forcing yourself often creates more resentment. Desire thrives on ease and emotional connection.Myth: He’s probably fine.
Fact: He misses you. And if you’re honest, you miss him too.Myth: This is just how marriage is.
Fact: Marriage can be fun, spicy, and deeply fulfilling with the right tools and strategies.
Why Connection Is the Key to Increasing Desire
Low libido isn’t just about sex—it’s about connection. When you’re overwhelmed, stressed, or feeling disconnected from your partner, your desire naturally takes a backseat. But when you start addressing the real reasons behind low libido, things begin to shift.
Imagine this:
No more guilt every time he wants intimacy and you’re just not there.
No more resentment bubbling because it feels like you’re the one saying no over and over.
Instead, ease, fun, and a sense that you’re truly in this together.
The secret? It starts with understanding how your sex drive works and learning strategies that don’t rely on forcing or faking it. This isn’t something we’re inherently taught, but it’s absolutely something you can learn.
Taking the First Step to Address Low Desire
If you’ve tried everything from new lingerie to libido-enhancing supplements and nothing’s worked, it’s time to try something different. The key isn’t more effort—it’s a better approach.
Here’s what you can do:
Understand what’s blocking your desire. Stress, overwhelm, and mental noise are huge turn-offs. Learn how to quiet them.
Focus on non-sexual intimacy. Connection outside the bedroom creates the foundation for desire inside it.
Get support. You don’t have to navigate this alone. Working with a professional can give you the tools you need to shift things for good.
How a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia Can Help You Transform Your Relationship
As a sex therapist in Philadelphia, I’ve helped countless women reignite their desire and reconnect with their partners. You don’t have to keep feeling stuck, guilty, or alone in this. There’s a better way, and I’m here to guide you.
If you’re ready to stop working so hard and actually get results, download my free guide below. It’s designed for women just like you, and includes a ton of proven solutions that actually get results.
Take the first step today and download your copy. Because intimacy doesn’t have to feel this hard—and neither does your relationship.
Insights from a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia: Download your FREE guide to increase low libido
If you’re interested in individual sex therapy in Philadelphia or couples therapy in Philadelphia, you can read more about how I can help with both by clicking their links.
My specialties include low sex drive, differential desires, communication, managing sexual stress and pressure, and increasing connection.
