Sex Therapy in Philadelphia
For Women Struggling with Low Libido Who Want Intimacy and Love Back in Their Relationships
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia
“Why don’t I want to do it anymore? Why does it feel like such a chore now? Is there something wrong with me?”
Low Libido Takes a Big Toll on Relationships: A Sex Therapist in Philadelphia Can Help
You’re stuck in a lose-lose situation where you’re never in the mood (which stresses you out on its own) but feel guilty always saying no. But you haven’t always felt like this so what changed? You’re looking for a way out but feel embarrassed, ashamed, and alone, which makes it really hard to talk about.
But you want to know how to get out of this cycle and get your sex life, and relationship, back on track.
Your relationship is strong, but this is that one thing you two can’t seem to figure out. Sex feels like a chore so you avoid it. But even that makes you feel bad because shouldn’t you want to have sex with the person you love? And it’s not even that you don’t want to have sex, it’s that you want to WANT to have sex. And how do you explain that, because it doesn’t even really make sense to you…
You’re here because intimacy has turned from something fun that brings you closer together into something you’re avoiding, dreading, and even resenting. You love your partner so much but feel guilty for not “meeting his needs” and you’re worried he’s feeling rejected and unloved.
There’s so much guilt, frustration, and even fear: fear that if you can’t figure this out, things will get more and more tense, and this could destroy your relationship. If this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place—and you’re not alone.
Can a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia help you break the cycle?
You’ve been stuck in the Cycle of Guilt, Resentment, and Fear with Intimacy for a long-time. Right now, you might be…
Dreading Date Nights out on the town because there’s this unspoken expectation of intimacy.
Avoiding Any Touch or Affection out of fear that he’ll take it as a “green light,” even if you’re just looking for a cuddle.
Feeling Guilty and Resentful—guilt for saying no, and resentment that this seems so easy for him and so hard for you.
Fearing That Low Libido Will Destroy Your Relationship because intimacy has become such a point of contention that you can’t even talk about it.
If you’re also questioning if something is “wrong” with you or are worried you’re the only one struggling with low libido and low desire, I’m here to assure you that you’re not alone, and you’re NOT broken. You don’t have to keep feeling this way. But you do need to make a change.
Why Your Past Efforts Haven’t Solved Low Libido—And Why Sex Therapy in Philadelphia Can Help
It’s Not Your Fault.
Because you’ve tried common solutions like date night scratch-off books, cute lacy underwear, or even libido-enhancing supplements and vitamins, so it’s no wonder you feel stuck. You’ve tried talking to your partner, bought conversation card decks to boost emotional connection, or even planned romantic nights around Philadelphia. But the problem is, these well-meaning solutions don’t address what’s really happening in your body.
Here’s the truth: Your body’s stress hormones have hijacked your natural arousal response.
When stress hormones are constantly flooding your system, they crowd out your natural ability to relax and desire intimacy. That’s why all the well-intended quick fixes haven’t worked—they don’t address the root cause: an overstimulated nervous system that’s keeping intimacy on the back burner.
Imagine this: Instead of feeling like intimacy is a chore or something on a checklist, you look forward to it again. You can cuddle without worrying it’ll lead to more because you’re both on the same page, and you no longer feel guilty saying no because you actually want to say yes sometimes.
This isn’t a fantasy—it’s achievable with the right tools and support.
A Day in the Life – Now vs. After Seeing a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia
Before Sex Therapy
Maybe you’re familiar with this: another night where you avoid his touch so he doesn’t get the wrong idea, wracking your brain to come up with a new excuse as to why you’re not in the mood, or dreading those moments when he asks, “do you want to…?” because now you have to be the bad guy and say no, yet again. You feel exhausted just thinking about it and don’t know what to do, so wishful thinking kicks in and you think “This is just a phase. It’ll pass.” But it never passes…
After Sex Therapy
Imagine starting your day feeling connected instead of distant. You wake up and actually enjoy being the little spoon for a minute before you get out of bed, without worrying about having to make excuses and just get to enjoy the affection. You go about your day and look forward to seeing him at night, sharing a meal, and talking about your day because you don’t have to be constantly on guard about sex. Intimacy no longer stresses you out but is something that feels good, even fun. You even initiate sometimes! And instead of resentment, there’s closeness; instead of pressure, there’s a natural connection.
In online sex therapy, we’ll work together to reset your nervous system and create real solutions that help you feel in control, hopeful, and able to look forward to intimacy again.
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia: Ready to Take the First Step?
FAQs about Sex Therapy in Philadelphia
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Sex therapy helps you address so many issues, including increasing low libido, navigating when you and your partner have different drives, bringing the passion back when the spark starts to dwindle, and more!
Investing in your sex life has a TON of benefits, not only inside the bedroom, but outside the bedroom on your health, wellbeing, and overall quality of life. Check out more about exactly what you can expect here.
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No, you won’t be having sex in front of your sex therapist! This is one of the most common myths but rest assured, all clothes will be staying on.
I use a bunch of awesome, research-backed techniques and strategies to help you reignite your arousal hormones, increase low libido, and get back on the same team in your love life so you and your partner are working together (because this isn’t just a “you” problem to solve, even though I know it can feel like that).
Click here to learn more about exactly what to expect in these sessions and how they can help.
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Investing in your sex life probably feels weird, or even frivolous. But it’s not just about the sex (ok, it is a little). It’s really about strengthening your relationship. It’s about feeling secure in your marriage. It’s about maintaining connection, fun, and excitement with the person you love most in the long run.
The reality is that lack of intimacy has really serious effects on your relationship long term so if your relationship and partner are important to you, intimacy needs to be too. But there are ways to go about it where it doesn’t feel like a chore, you don’t feel guilty saying no, and you can navigate being in the mood at different times with more ease.
To give you a jumping-off point (since no one teaches us how sex drive works) learn how your drive works here so you can jumpstart it today and prioritize the most important relationship you have.
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia Offers Real Benefits—Beyond the Bedroom
The benefits of restoring a balanced connection aren’t just about boosting physical intimacy and ensuring a long, happy relationship. The benefits have a ripple effect on your day-to-day life. When you ease your stress hormones and begin to reset your body’s natural signals, you’ll see positive changes throughout your entire life, like:
Increased “Happy Hormones” – Consistent connection and intimacy boost oxytocin, endorphins, and dopamine, which boost your mood and overall happiness.
Lowered Blood Pressure & Stress – Reconnection can reduce cortisol levels, calming your activated nervous system and promoting relaxation. This also has a positive feedback loop effect, which is an added bonus!
Enhanced Physical & Emotional Health – Intimacy brings benefits like improved immune function, heart health, and increases the quality of your relationship.
And these are just the tip of the iceberg! These are the results of understanding and addressing the real source of low desire—an overstimulated nervous system—not simply “fixing” your libido.
How Sex Therapy in Philadelphia Can Help You Boost Low Desire and Enjoy Intimacy
Erinn Hoel, Dog Lover & Sex Therapist in Philadelphia
I’m Erinn Hoel, a online sex therapist and sex therapist in Philadelphia (as well as avid dog lover!), focused on helping women like you transform from feeling broken, guilty, and resentful to feeling empowered, connected, and excited about intimacy again. Here’s how sex therapy with me helps:
Calm Your Overactive Nervous System
We’ll work together to uncover why this system is in overdrive and use tools designed to reset your nervous system and ease the stress hormones that are hijacking your libido. Calming these hormones will help you stop feeling so exhausted so you can create the mental and physical space for connection and pleasure to flourish—both in your daily life and in your relationship.
Reignite Low Libido in a Way That Actually Works for You
Everyone’s sex drive is unique, and you’ll get to know how yours actually works and what feels authentic, pleasurable, and sustainable for you. Through personalized strategies, you’ll learn to stimulate your desire naturally (instead of trying to force it) so that you can feel connected to your body, empowered during intimacy, and connect in a whole new way in your relationship, without pressure.
Navigate Intimacy with Your Partner’s Support
Feeling like you’re on the same team makes a world of difference. I’ll help give you the skills you need to bring your partner along on this journey, so you both feel understood and connected. Together, we’ll create a plan that supports open communication, focuses on mutual enjoyment, and deepens your bond in a way that feels good for both of you.
It’s not about “fixing” you or your relationship. Sex therapy is about reconnecting with yourself and your partner, and creating the connection you crave without the guilt, pressure, or fear so that your relationship is strong in the long run.
Change one thing, change everything.
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia: Ready to Take the First Step?
Take a small step toward big change by booking your free 15-min call here or by calling 484-854-3866. We’ll talk through what’s been happening, how I can help, and the exact steps to start feeling closer, connected, and more secure in your relationship again.
Questions? I’ve got you- click here to learn more or here to contact me.
