5 Tips for Finding a Sex Therapist in Philadelphia, PA

If you live in or around Philly you know how it great it is.

There’s always something to do, whether it be taking in the sites at the Art Museum, a Phillies game at Citizens Bank Park, or debating where to get the best cheesesteak (I vote Pat’s). There’s no shortage of culture, food, and people, and that includes therapists.

While it’s wonderful there are so many sex therapists in the area, the sheer volume can be SO overwhelming, especially when you’re already struggling. Add in the addition of online therapy and you’re no longer bound by geography. This opens more doors! AND more doors mean more possibilities and boom, suddenly analysis paralysis sets in: there are so many options you don’t know how or where to start. I’m here to help you start that journey and find the right fit for you.

I want to help you find a sex therapist in Philadelphia, PA

There are a million therapists out there, but only one you. And who you trust with your story is important. So, do me a favor and don’t just pick the first therapist who seems meh/good enough/just because they take your insurance. You need to feel good about the therapist you’re working with! That’s the only way this process is truly helpful.

Here are 5 tips to help you find a kick-ass sex therapist you’re excited to work with:

Tip #1: Identify your most pressing issue

Look for someone with expertise in that area. It’s all connected so don’t worry too much about finding someone that has worked with everything you’re experiencing. Focus on the most pressing issue for you now and look for someone with experience with that.

Tip #2: Take advantage of free intro calls with therapists

These are your best friend. You can get a feel for what type of work a therapist does from reading about them online, but that doesn’t always give you a sense of what it will be like to be in session with them. The best predictor of great outcomes for you is having a good therapeutic relationship. The best way to assess this is to have a real-life convo, ask questions, and see what kind of vibe you get.

Tip #3: Throw out the typical idea of sex therapy and think about who you best connect with

Hollywood has had a hay day with the typical depiction of therapy (does anyone really lay down on a couch?? Well, yes, but not everyone!). This stereotypical idea of therapy doesn’t work for most. Think instead about the type of person you connect well with and what you want sessions to feel like. Would you benefit from someone energetic and task-oriented? Do you like to be called on your BS (it’s okay, we all have it)? Are you looking for someone to help you slow down and be more mindful? Think about the personality style that would mesh well with yours so you can look for someone like this and get maximum benefits.

Tip #4: Speaking of goals, think about what motivates you to make change

If you like to apply things right away, look for a sex therapist who is more task-focused, skills-based, and can help you maintain momentum as you trial and error things in real-time. If you like to assess all options before taking action, look for a sex therapist who can help you focus on the process, get a clearer picture of what’s going on, and assess how you want to shift. Asking potential therapists how they help clients through the change process will give you an idea of what techniques they use so you can assess if they’re a fit with your style.

Tip #5: Consider online vs. in-person sex therapy

Some people love online sessions and some love meeting in person. Some are fine with either and are focused more on the services, rather than the setting. Be honest with yourself about what kind of environment will allow you to feel most comfortable, open, and motivated, and look for a sex therapist offering this.

A free sex therapy intro call in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Remember, the best way to set yourself up for sex therapy success is by being honest about what you’re looking for, asking questions, and finding someone you feel comfortable with. It’s definitely a daunting process at first but don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis! Instead, take it one step at a time and remember why you’re doing this: because you’re struggling and you deserve to spend some TLC on yourself.

I hope this helps you think about what you need to succeed and find the right sex therapist in Philadelphia, PA. If this still feels overwhelming, or you have more questions about how to find the right fit click, here to schedule a 15 min phone chat. I’d be happy to learn more about your individual process and help you figure out how to choose the best therapist. Click on these to learn more about how I can help with individual sex therapy in Philadelphia or couples therapy in Philadelphia.

My specialties include low desire, differential desires, low libido, sexual communication, managing sexual stress and pressure, and increasing connection.